July 12, 2005

I had a revelation....

While driving to work this morning I was listening to the Destiny's Child song, Cater to you. The first time I ever heard this song I hated it. I couldn't pinpoint just why, but it could just be the independent Woman in me.. LOL Why would a bunch of beautiful, successful Black Women cater to some thugs ( just me thinking out loud ). Well, on the way to work this morning, listening to this particular song I had a revelation. I finally understood the song. I thought back to my own relationship and the man that I once had. Maybe if I would've have catered to his manhood just once we would've had a chance. I was so caught up in my own successes and goals that I never once even took into consideration HIS feelings. I looked at him as a burden and I resented HIM. This was expressed over and over again in my every action. Today when I Listened to this song it provided me with a brand new perspective on men and relationships. I know that probably sounds corny. But just think about it... I had a man that was waiting for me everyday when I came home from work.. sometimes he ran my bath... cooked my dinner and raised my son.. although he didn't do things the way I wanted them done.. he did them and that deserved a lot more recognition than I ever gave him. Now it's probably too late ... But, Thank you Aaron for everything. good and bad.. I love you..